The Top 21 Books on Building Self-Discipline & Self-Control

The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

This book explores how we can harness the power of habits to build better routines and achieve our goals. Duhigg provides research-backed advice on establishing keystone habits that spur positive life changes.

The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal

McGonigal helps readers understand the science behind willpower and offers practical strategies to strengthen self-discipline over time. Her compassionate approach aims to reduce self-judgment.

The Marshmallow Test by Walter Mischel

Mischel discusses his famous Stanford marshmallow experiment on delayed gratification and what it reveals about self-control. The book explores how early experiences shape willpower.

Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives by Gretchen Rubin

Rubin examines our relationship to habits through a lens of self-compassion and offers tailored advice for customizing habits. She focuses on progress over perfection.

The Power of Self-Discipline by Brian Tracy

Tracy outlines 21 proven methods for building iron-clad self-discipline by incrementally conditioning the mind. His tough love approach urges radical accountability.

FAQ

How can I build new habits?

Start small – focus on one new habit at a time, attach it to an existing routine, use reminders, and track progress. Don’t beat yourself up over slip ups.

What causes us to procrastinate?

Fear of failure or unpleasant tasks taps our fight-or-flight response and drains willpower over time. Be compassionate with yourself and break tasks into bite-sized pieces.

Do rewards help build self-discipline?

They can, but intrinsic motivators tend to work better long-term. Connect your goals to your values and sense of meaning for sustainable self-discipline.

Can self-discipline be learned at any age?

Yes – while early childhood plays a formative role, adults can rewire habits through consistent practice and self-compassion during setbacks.

What depletes our daily self-control?

Stressors like lack of sleep, blood sugar crashes, decision fatigue, loneliness, and emotional distress tax willpower. Support healthy routines that renew you.