The Difficult First Few Months
Becoming a new mom is supposed to be one of the happiest times in life. However, for many women like myself, the first few months with a new baby can be unexpectedly difficult and overwhelming, both emotionally and physically. I suffered from postpartum depression after my daughter was born.
Feeling Like a Failure
The feelings crept up slowly – a lack of energy, difficulty bonding with my baby, sadness and crying spells for no reason. I started feeling like I was failing at being a mom. The guilt and shame made me withdraw further into myself.
Reaching Out for Help
Thankfully, my husband noticed my struggles and encouraged me to open up about what I was going through. I felt scared to admit I was depressed as a new mom. But once I started talking about it, I realized how common postpartum depression is. My doctor compassionately validated my feelings, assuring me I was not alone.
Finding the Right Treatment
I began meeting regularly with a therapist specializing in postpartum mental health. She helped me process my emotions and start establishing self-care routines like getting outdoors, exercising, and spending time doing things I enjoyed pre-baby. I also started an antidepressant which helped regulate my mood.
FAQ
What were your first signs of postpartum depression?
I felt extremely fatigued no matter how much I rested, had intense mood swings, and struggled to feel bonded with my baby despite desperately wanting to.
How long did your PPD last?
My moderate PPD lasted about 5 months before I began feeling more like myself. But many women can struggle with symptoms for up to a year or more after giving birth.
What helped you recover?
A combination of professional help through counseling and medication, as well as support from my husband, friends and family was crucial. Learning coping strategies and allowing myself grace was so important.
Do you have any advice for new moms?
Know that it’s absolutely okay to struggle and reach out for help. There are many resources available, and you don’t have to tough it out alone. Be compassionate with yourself.
Could PPD occur after a second pregnancy?
Yes, you can be at risk for PPD with each pregnancy and delivery. Make sure to monitor your emotional health and have a support system in place.
