Receiving constructive feedback can be difficult, but it’s an essential part of growth. I spoke to Jane, a life coach with over 10 years of experience, about the healthiest mindset and strategies for accepting criticism.
Listen Openly and Without Judgment
Jane explained that when we feel defensive, we shut down mentally. “Try to listen openly, without immediately deciding if the feedback is right or wrong. Stay present.” Ask clarifying questions if you need to, but don’t argue.
Look for the Kernel of Truth
“There is often some truth or valuable perspective within difficult feedback, even if the delivery felt hurtful,” said Jane. Rather than focus on tone or specifics you disagree with, look for what you can learn.
Thank the Person for Caring Enough to Share
“Expressing gratitude shifts the dynamic to one of care and good intent,” Jane shared. Validation can go a long way in smoothing over discomfort for both people.
Reflect on How You Can Grow
Jane stressed that the most important question is: How can I grow from this? “Look within first before blaming others. Feedback says more about the giver’s viewpoint than your worth.”
Create a Plan of Action
“Turn insights into attainable goals so this can empower rather than discourage you,” Jane advised. Break big areas down into small steps you can focus on one at a time.
FAQ
What is the healthiest mindset for accepting criticism?
Listen openly without judgment, look for truths you can learn from, and reflect on how you can grow rather than blaming the messenger.
Why is it important not to get defensive?
Defensiveness closes our minds to hearing what may be valuable insights from another perspective. Stay mentally open.
How can we show appreciation for critical feedback?
Expressing gratitude shifts the dynamic to one of care and good intent. Validation goes a long way.
What’s the most important question to ask yourself?
“How can I grow from this?” Look within first before blaming the messenger. Feedback says more about their perspective.
How can we turn insights into real change?
Set clear, step-by-step goals focused on progress, not perfection. Small wins build confidence.
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