Understanding Your Motivation
When setting personal goals, it’s important to start from a place of compassion. Consider what motivates you in life and the values that guide your choices. Seek to better understand yourself before determining the goals you’d like to achieve.
Setting Realistic Expectations
Be kind to yourself as you set goals. Consider what is truly achievable given your current circumstances and abilities. Unrealistic expectations often lead to frustration. Focus instead on incremental progress.
Making a Plan
Once you’ve set some goals, make a reasonable plan to achieve them. Break bigger goals down into smaller steps that are easier to accomplish. And schedule time for working toward your goals around other responsibilities.
Being Patient
Personal growth and achievement happens slowly over time. Expect setbacks and challenges as part of the journey. Meet them with self-compassion. Progress will come with consistent effort and patience.
Asking for Help
You don’t have to pursue goals alone. Consider sharing them with supportive friends who can cheer you on. Or find a mentor who has experience achieving similar goals. Having help makes the journey easier.
FAQ
What should I consider when setting personal goals?
When setting goals, first get clear on your core values and motivations. Then set realistic expectations you can achieve incrementally. Making a plan and asking friends for support can also set you up for success.
Why do I get frustrated trying to reach my goals?
Frustration often comes from unrealistic expectations about the timeline and ease of achievement. Remember that lasting change takes patience and persistence through challenges.
How can I motivate myself?
Focus on why your goals matter, even in small ways, to your wellbeing or sense of meaning. Schedule check-ins on your progress. Reward milestones reached. And share your journey with supportive friends.
What if I fail at a goal I set?
So-called failures are learning opportunities. Analyze what went wrong compassionately and make adjustments. Part of achievement is learning from not reaching goals and trying again.
When should I ask others for help?
If you feel stuck, overwhelmed or discouraged, don’t hesitate to ask trusted friends and mentors for guidance, accountability or moral support. We all need help along the way.
